Roses for Mommies: Celebrating Mother’s Day

As our Sunday School Children spread around the church to distribute Roses to the mothers who are standing, I felt overwhelmed. Can a single Rose express the feeling we have for our mothers? Is it a fitting gift for Mother’s Day? Though the answer was NO, I could not think of a better gift also. Every other thing I thought-of as gift, fall short in some ways to translate what I feel even symbolically. So those small Roses show our helplessness to convey how we cherish our mothers. When words and symbols cannot express, we need to stand in awe and silence (roses are better than silence).

In midst of all our special Mother’s Day programs which brought the Love of a Mother vividly, I was happy that my Mom was there in the congregation. How I cherish the memories of my childhood. How her sacrifices and censures have made me what I am?

Whatever I become in my life, first I am a son to my mother. I could be anything to the world: a preacher, pastor, student or an administrator, but my mother sees me as her son. She scolds me when I don’t take care of myself. Chides me if I eat less. Appreciates me when I do something even small. She feels proud about who I am. Mother is a mother in all situation. She is the best influence in a man’s life.

Hurrah! Mommy is here

Who will not like mommy and daddy nearby? My parents came for Summer vacation on 8th May. Of course my little sister also came along (she is to stay here for one month and learn different things including cooking from Priya). Our long expectations and planning saw its culmination when the Indigo flight landed in the airport of Mumbai. It was joy and love everywhere as me and Priya received them around 2.30 pm and took them to have a late lunch prepared for them at our home.

This trip was very special for them as they are coming for the first time after my marriage. That means now they are coming to see the married, responsible family man Jebaseelan. They are also coming to MY home. May be I will know how they feel when I enter the threshold of my grown up kid when they settle in a far away city. I can feel their anticipation in their talk over phone about the trip and when they really came here. It was a delight for me to see them this way. I feel the satisfaction that they are happy about my life. After all, each parent want to see their kid in a nice, settled position. I feel proud that I am not a thorn to them but a delight.

My family at the Marine Drive

Of course we have lots of plans. Already a visit to marine drive and Worli-Bandra Sea link is over. Today morning I took dad to Sasoon Dock to purchase fish. He, a fish freak, loved seeing the huge dock full of fishes of different sizes and varieties. He names them each and do a comparative study of Tamil Nadu fish and Mumbai ones. We bought around three varieties of Fishes and some crabs, still he was not satisfied. As a person lived for some years near sea shore (Nagapattinam, TN) he never gets tired of fresh fishes. After some hard work of cleaning by Mom and Priya, we had a heartily meal. The time flies as family entertainment is interspersed with Clergical duties. We are determined to make the best of the remaining few days. With the family near, the fun is not in luxurious things but in simple laughter over meal, small jokes during the drive and old stories which makes us miss our past.

One Year in HIS Vineyard

It is a surprise for me. I have completed one year in the ministry. I could not believe that I actually was a pastor in a Church for past ONE year. Wow. If you had asked me one and a half years before what I want to become, being a pastor won’t be in that list definitely. Even I would have laughed at the idea of I being in pastoral ministry. It just did not fit my character and personality. But who has the control of LIFE? Life took different turns and finally I ended up in pastoral ministry. But from the day one I knew it is God’s will in my life. Though I did not plan it and though I did not even like the idea of it, God has sent me to Mumbai to do this ministry.

1st May came. Mumbai celebrated Labour’s day and Maharashtra Day but I was thrilled to remember how God gave me this unexpected ministry and how he made me to shine in it also. It is just a wonder. Unbelievable wonder. During my seminary days when anyone commented on how fit I will be for pastoral ministry, I would gently brush it aside by saying that is not my cup of tea. But I was drinking it for the past one year.

Life is full of surprises. I am a pastor now. I am having lots of dreams and ambitions. A time will come when I will move on to take up other roles which God will assign me in life. That time also I pray that I will have the satisfaction and sense of Calling which I experienced during my stint as a Pastor.

Breeding at my window ledge

Opening the house door at Mumbai after our Kanpur-Dehradun-Tamil Nadu visit, we found everything normal. But when we opened our kitchen window, we found heavy traffic of Pigeon than usual. I discovered the reason when I tried to clean the window ledge (slabs of tiles which provide a platform outside the window with the support of the grill to dry the utensils, though we don’t use it) off the carton box.  It was a nicely woven nest of pigeon. So I did not remove the box which shaded it from the Sun and also covered it from the view of predator birds. In two days, we found two eggs in the nest.

Now the pigeon started to brood over it. Though in the beginning the Pigeon was startled by our movement in the kitchen and our constant peeping, it soon got accustomed to it. Even if we stare at it for a long time it won’t move. Only when we stretch our hands it will move away from the eggs. The vigil of the Pigeon and us continued. We relished showing the eggs to all our visitors. Then one day a cute little fledgling appeared. We were so excited. But soon we discovered that another egg did not hatch and the mother kicked it out off the nest.

Cute little Pigeon

We followed the growth of the fledgling. It was an exciting thing. Soft-golden feathers shooting off the tender skin of the little one and the innocent groping of the fledgling till the eyes opened was a grand thing to watch. I bet the mother did a good job in feeding it continuously. It became very fat. The normal colour of the pigeon: grey pattern came in the feathers as the tender feathers gave way to the normal hard ones. Now as it grew fast it started moving away from us. It hid itself in the far away corner so that we will not see it often. But still we had the satisfaction that we are hosting it in our window ledge and we are its protectors.

We too had to undergo difficulties to host this little bird. We could not open one side of the window in the kitchen. As Sun pushed the mercury level high in the city, one closed window mattered a lot. We did think of throwing the bird down and opening our window, but finally the good nature in us overwhelmed us. My wife, who normally never tolerate any smell or spot in our vicinity, had to endure the window ledge littered with cloths (on which the nest was built), refuse of the fledgling and the carton box which spoils the look of our kitchen window when viewed from the outside. But we endured all this, praying that soon the Pigeon will fly away and both we and the pigeon will be happy.

Our dreams were shattered one day. I was talking to my mom on the phone and casually I looked out of the window. To my shock I saw two more pigeon eggs on the same nest and the fledgling (which is grown now) moved to another corner of the ledge to facilitate this egg laying. Surely the word has gone out in the pigeon circle that this window ledge is lucky and the people here are kind hosts. We have decided to show our Christian love through patience and forbearance. We are bracing to face some more hot days so that we will save this pair of little ones too. We are again excited. We are waiting. We want to see these eggs break and puny pigeons coming out of it. We will forget the pain in the pleasure of seeing the wonder of God’s creation very close to us.

Chicken Pox

Life is full of surprises. We don’t have control over what happens and when somethings happen in our lives. It was a surprise for me when Doctor, to whom I went for treatment, told me I have Chicken pox. It was last Thursday (15th March). The very next day blisters became big and I was damn tired. For two or three days I was just eating and sleeping.

Neem leaves which are used as part of treatment

Neem leaves which are used as part of treatment

But Thank God now I am alright and able to do some work. I thank my family, friends and Church Members who prayed and really cared for me and gave some valuable advice regarding how I should take care of myself.

Bad thing about this disease is that I am not supposed to eat any spicy or salted food. But thanks to my wife who prepares everything in a innovative way, I got some unsalted food which are better than normal food. Of course the fun part is eating lots of fruits brought to me by friends and relatives. Now we have enough fruits to keep a stall at home.

On the positive side, Chicken Pox brought me a week of forced rest which I would not have taken at any cost for any reason. May be God has some tough work for me in near future!!!!

Horror on the Iron Wheel

Iron Wheel

The lively holiday mood was dampened by a bunch of people who don’t bother about rules and regulation. This was the worst experience I had in a train journey. I and Priya were on our way to Dehradun for the Senate of Serampore convocation. Our first stop was at Kanpur to spend a day with Paritosh’s before taking the connecting train to the venue of convocation.
It was then we met those patriots who consider everything belonging to the country as their own. They came with two reserved tickets but I could count five heads. They are astounding people who defile logic. This bunch did not stop with that. They talked aloud and drowned other’s voices in the compartment. They chewed tobacco continuously and smoked occasionally. They don’t have any consideration for the lady who is sitting opposite to them.
The worst part is that the hands of the law were not active, may be paralysed. This helped me to imagine the Wild West where the tentacles of law were not spread everywhere, providing apt illustration for the Louis L’Amour’s novel I was reading. I even wondered, in India too we have places where law is not implemented. Law enforces on the wheels did not bother to ask any questions. TTE don’t want to ruffle any feather. He is sweeter to them than I could imagine.
I and Priya held our breaths. We wanted the journey to be over somehow. We also regretted despising the advice of several people who urged us to book an AC ticket. When the train reached Kanpur at the middle of the night, HORROR ON IRON WHEEL ended. We breathed easily at the presence of loving friends. Now I will understand the feeling of a rescued hostage from a hijacked train (if at all it happens literally).

Strawberry Deception

Dismay becomes absolute when it comes immediately after celebration. That is what exactly happened when Priya bought a box of strawberry home. Priya said, “It costs only 25 rupees”. I could not believe what I was hearing. A pack of strawberry is normally sold for 40 to 50 rupees and with sharp bargaining skills you can bring it down to 35 rupees and not less than that. I was proud of my wife who bought it for a flat price. But the celebration lasted only for some time. We debated for some time whether to wash and eat the whole pack or only the first layer.  The assumption was that at least two layers of strawberries are there. But to our utter dismay we found the second layer stuffed with leaf with only four fruits. There was some blessing in disguise, a small consolation. All the leaves were not of strawberries. There were some fresh coriander leaves along with them. In spite of disappointment Priya started separating them from the rest to use for cooking.

Strawberry and the leaves

Thala Curry

Thala (head) of goat attracted my attention as I walked through the market in Byculla. It has been long time since I savoured it. Whenever I go home, I ask my Mom to prepare and give it. Nothing can beat it’s taste. So as I thought about my mom’s recipe an unqenchable desire to eat thala curry took hold of me.

Then what? I bought it immediately and came home to prepare it. It was only in the night I was able to eat it with Priya (due to work and non availbility of cocunut). Irresistable smell and the unique taste of the flesh in the head of the goat is unbeatable. Priya also tasted it for the first time and now she is liking it. So I hope we will make it often at our house.

If you need the secret recipe, contact me…

By johnjebaseelan Posted in Cooking

Hooked for a Life Time…

Hooked for a Life Time...

It is exactly one month earlier, on 27th of October 2011, I hooked the chain around the neck of Priya Devadhas and made her Priya Jebaseelan. Splicing or tying Mangalyam has become old fashion even in Tamil marriages. It is now hooking. Take the chain; bring it around the neck of the girl; hook it and tighten the hook: you are married. This simple act brings phenomenal change in your life.

You have a partner of gentler sex sharing your room, bed and kitchen. She invariably disapproves of your tidiness and the way you keep things in the house. She wakes you up every morning with a smile and say, “Honey, get milk from the shop”. When you enter the house she stops you by the door by gently touching you and say in a romantic tone, “Remove the sandals before you enter the house” (I used to trample the nook and corner of the house with my shoes and sandals, I don’t go to bed with footwear though). But as for me, I calculated the cost before embarking on this life-long enterprise, as the good book says.

There is a positive side also. She brings sunshine in to your life and house. Some of our friends came to our house next day to the wedding. One uncle in the group made an accurate observation saying, “I have come to the same house two days before but now it really looks like a ‘house’.” Apart from this, the sense of feeling one have that he is now a responsible husband and head of a family is the greatest turning in life. You don’t feel like spending money unnecessarily as you have one extra mouth to feed. You don’t simply buy anything you see just because it looks nice. You don’t roam around aimlessly and return home at your own time. You can surely savour the pride of feeling that you have a family of your own now and you are the head of it. Marriage definitely makes a man more responsible.

By johnjebaseelan Posted in Life

Who is blind?

I had the rare privilege of attending a prayer meeting organized by and for Visually Challenged people. It was a small yet enthusiastic gathering. They came with their families. The members of the family who do not have visual problem energetically helped. Once the prayer started, I could see the enthusiasm of each member. It was a glorious sight to see them sing with lots of joy, as if they have everything they asked for in life. One lady read Psalm from Braille Bible and each one repeated the Psalm after her. When I requested another brother to read the Scripture portion for the message in Braille Bible, he went to the room which had pile of Braille books and slowly but systematically felt each book and found the First Epistle to Corinthians in Hindi and read it.

Braille Reading

The most exciting site was the communion meal which was after the prayer. I could see how much knitted they are like a single family. They recognise each other by their voices, each kid present in the assembly bring food and water to the visually impaired Uncles and Aunties and they chat with much joy not even bothering about the worries of their lives. It was not mere time-pass chit chat that we do normally to kill time or to be polite in a social gathering, but conversations and comments full of love and regard for each other. I thought they understand the significance of the other person. They know the value of community. They recognise man is not an island, he needs others and only by sharing love they can be part of the life of others and the others in theirs. When will we, who are having sight, have the insight to understand this truth and act as a part of the community? When our ‘sighted society’ is going to be glued by love and kindness? I left the place with deep thought. Indeed this place gave me much food for thought.